The Art of Being in your Body during Intimacy
We often think of sexuality as something we do, even perform. We see it through the prism of what we are doing.
My invitation is to redirect our attention to being with the sensations in our body.
As if we could feel and even name the sensations within us in real time.
''I feel a deep wave of warmth moving from my genitals to my chest.''
''I feel an electric vibration moving in the back of my neck, in my arms.''
And when we live our intimate experience by fully inhabiting our bodies, we experience it as a symphony of sensations.
The more we are anchored in our own bodies, the better our partner can also sense what gives us pleasure—and can, in a way, read our experience.
Like reading a piece of music. Knowing exactly where there is a crescendo, a pause, or a change of rhythm.
We're completely changing the paradigm regarding performance.
That moaning or making sounds isn't the only indication to follow (and also potentially to fake). That it comes instead from feeling.
Honest, present feeling, without fuss, without the intention of pleasing your partner's ego. Feeling when you're connected to it, it doesn't lie.
And maybe that's precisely what we want to avoid; sometimes there's a desire to be in control of our experience, and it's easier when we're in our own head.
I can understand that, and in all honesty, I myself faked orgasms for many years before discovering this teaching about connecting with my body. So no judgment here ;)
What's also beautiful is that my partner would know immediately if I was trying to fake something that wasn't real.
He would know—his body would know. And this is something I wish for all men.
I invite you to inhabit your body more deeply during your next intimate experience.
Choose to direct your attention from your head to your feelings and observe what is true, what is present.
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